Dangerous Wonder

Been talking to my sister recently about relationships and the like. You know the usual trials we go through in our journey from "nest" to the world. I stumbled upon something that kind of took me by surprise. It makes perfect sense, but yet I never saw it this way before. We can't make anyone love us...... Now we can usually influence someone's like, infatuation, or lust of us, but we really can't control love. Why? Because love is a choice we make not a feeling we feel. When someone chooses to love us it is based on them and their willingness to be vulnerable to us, not our looks, good behavior, assets, etc. Therefore we also have no power to change the degree or strength of their love. Again because it really isn't based on us. This helps me to better understand God's love. How could God love such selfish and stupid people as us? Because he chooses to. And that decision is based on Him and who He is, not on us. For someone like me who has grown up seeking to always be what someone can love me for, this is mind-blowing. It's also incredibly freeing. I am loved. Nothing I do, say, think or how I look can change that. This should be the safest place in the world for me. I now have to take the step of faith to believe that this kind of love truly exists and exists in my life. Faith is required to succeed in life. There are so many things we just can't see. We just have to believe. I may spend the rest of my life learning how to apply all this to me, but I make it my goal to learn this and live it well.